It’s official, we’re declaring this the summer of the prostate. Why? Because this underexplored erogenous zone is the source of serious pleasure, and we’ll shout it from the rooftops if we have to.
We want men and their partners everywhere to know just how much pleasure is possible with a little exploration. We’ve put together five things you should know to get started with prostate play — and experience next level pleasure for yourself.
And yes, this involves butts. Believe us, it’s worth it.
1. Just how good can it be?
Answer: Really, really (really) good.
Let’s start with why. Why are you going to be exploring your (or your partner’s) prostate, when it’s accessed via a pathway that people sometimes find a little intimidating?
Because it turns out that sex and pleasure go way beyond the sensations you can experience through the penis alone. The dominant narrative is this: men’s sexuality — and their orgasms — are pretty simple. It’s time to overturn that theory, and the prostate is key to doing so.
While prostate stimulation can add extra, super-pleasurable layers to the sensations you’ve come to expect when you climax, it can also create a totally different experience. Instead of being localized in the penis or groin, these sensations radiate through the body, extending into wave after wave of broader pleasure.
It’s most commonly described as “mind-blowing.” For real. Full body orgasms. Waves of pleasure that “go on and on.” And did you know men can have multiple orgasms? Now you do. Thanks, Prostate.
This is next level pleasure.
2. What exactly is the prostate?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located inside the groin, close to the base of the penis. Its job is to secret prostate fluid, one component of semen. Luckily for all of us, it’s also the source of intense pleasure, if you find the right spot and stimulate it in the right way.
The prostate has a lot in common with the G-spot. It’s a small, sensitive gland that’s packed with pleasure-seeking nerve endings — it’s even been called the P-spot.
3. Know what you’re looking for.
Before you set off in search of the holy grail of orgasms, you’ll need to know a little bit about what you’re looking for.
While the prostate is located inside the groin, the best and most direct way to stimulate it is via the anterior wall of the rectum. Gently insert a lubed finger or prostate toy (use water-based lube if you’re using a silicone toy), curving towards the front of the body. About two inches in, you’ll find the prostate, which will feel smooth and symmetrical, with a bit of bounce (kind of like a ripe plum).
4. Everybody is different.
And every body is different. There is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to the prostate. Customization is key — playing with different rhythms, pressure and angles to find what the sensations that take you over the edge.
We can say that most prostates really enjoy alternating pressure (a sort of “on/off” sensation), which makes a vibrating prostate massager an ideal way to start playing. Play with different vibrations and intensities to find what you like.
5. From solo to soulmates (and everything in between), prostate pleasure has a place.
When you’re just getting started with prostate pleasure, you might want to experiment on your own, using a toy to find the sensations you like. But prostate pleasure is not just a solo sport.
The level of pleasure you can experience via the prostate is fun for everyone. And did we say fun? We meant super hot. And that makes for epic sex.
And this doesn’t need to be a fumbling experience — modern technology means customizable, ergonomically designed toys that you can control from your smartphone. A smooth experience for everyone involved.
Which leads us to: Vector.
You can play in all kinds of ways. Fingers are awesome. Toys are awesome (do make sure they have a flared base). As we’ve said — we think prostate pleasure is, in every way, awesome.
But we currently have a very special place in our heart for Vector, our newest prostate toy. We created Vector to be the best prostate massager ever. Seriously. We worked with leading prostate experts and a team of engineers to make sure that every bend and rumble works for real people.
It’s customizable, app-enabled, and made of super smooth, body-safe silicone.
And it’s here now. Shop Vector