Best Kept Secrets: What can our grandparents teach us about sex?

The right to a fulfilling sex life is universal. Sex is something to be embraced, enjoyed and celebrated. To contribute to the conversation about sex in old age, we’ve produced a series of videos featuring older, sexually active people, as well as international experts. In this first video, we ask, what sex advice can we learn from those older than us?

We all think we know exactly what we mean when we say “sex.” Sex is penetration and orgasm. Simple, right? Well, no. Along with expert Joan Price, we discuss that there’s more to sex in later life than positions and styles. It’s about intimacy, companionship, closeness, fun, and sensuality. Sex transcends sex, and we need to talk more about broadening the definition of sex to include all manner of unexpected pleasures.

What happens to sex after menopause? while our mobility and performance might be impacted by age, there’s no reason to change the sexual practices that you’ve enjoyed throughout your life, and our modern understanding of sex has led to solutions for every issue.

Much of the uncertainty surround sex and ageing is simply because we don’t talk about it very much, and it’s rarely represented with any dignity in our media. So we asked a group of sexually active olders to set the record straight: what’s real, and what’s not, in senior sex?

How can technology help you have better sex after menopause? Can sex toys benefit senior sex? Yes, is the answer. Yes it can. Sorry, we should have said ‘spoiler alert’. We've pulled together some information about which sex toys are best for older people, what benefits they offer to you.