The “Tit-for-Tat” Game

Ever catch yourself keeping score in your relationship? If so, you may have noticed that – ironically enough – no one ever comes out on top.

It’s a funny thing that when couples start keeping score (in arguments, of favours, etc.), both parties seem to lose in the end. Relationship expert Jennifer Jill Jarman explains why on her blog:

Keeping track of who does what for whom (a “tit-for-tat” game) is a sign you are not seeing your behaviors as benefiting the relationship, but just as benefiting one partner or the other. Try to see how your actions benefit the relationship, because, ultimately, your relationship ultimately benefits you both.

In other words, it’s not a competition – you’re on the same team!

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