Talking during sex can be a total turn-on – or a little intimidating, depending on the mood or the couple.  If you tend to be the silent type but want to give sex talk a try, here are some ways to test the waters:

Pre-Pillow Talk – Before you get busy in the bedroom, get a conversation going about your sexual likes and dislikes.

Start Slow – Simply tell your partner where you want to be touched – and when.

Keep It Simple – Try simple directives like “harder,” “softer,” or “slower.”

Foreshadow Foreplay - Tell your partner exactly what you are going to do, but before you do it.  This builds anticipation and excitement up for the main event.

A little pillow talk can go a long way when it comes to letting go of your sexual inhibitions.  Try it and see what happens!

Here are five moves that will tease your man’s erogenous zones and bring him to the brink of insane pleasure.

1. Strip…Then Tease - Have him sit down, play a sexy record, and slowly and confidently de-robe in front of him.

2. Light But Loaded - Gently rub your lips against his.  Part your mouth slightly, anticipating his tongue, and when he gives you his, pause before slowly kissing back. This will work him up, so keep repeating.  When you’re ready, passionately kiss him with a full tongue.

3.  Gaze & Graze - Lay him down, look at him intensely and then gently run your nails over his entire body.   Barely graze his hot spots until you have him in a full frenzy.

4. Do Tell & Then Do - Whisper exactly what you’d like him to do to you…in the order that you want it.

5.    Ear Foreplay - Kiss him softly on the lips, brush your mouth past his cheek and hover over his ear. Gently breathe on his ear, nibble at his earlobe, and then slowly trace the rim of his ear with your tongue. When he can’t stand it anymore, gently stick your tongue in his ear.

After all this, are you wondering what’s in it for you?  A lot….

Your man will be so revved up, he’ll be inspired to turn all of his attentions to you.   And if he was paying close attention,  Step number 4 will be even better than imagined.

We’ve all heard the phrase, “make a little time for you, every day.”  So, why not apply it to your sex life?  Sex is about pleasure, but it’s also the cornerstone of intimacy. And it can start with something as simple as a morning kiss before heading out to work. The 30-day pledge is about devoting time each and every day to intimacy.

Begin Outside the Bedroom

Keeping the intimacy alive begins with small, loving gestures outside of the bedroom.  It can be anything from a love note posted to a rearview mirror and a promise of a sexy moment slipped into a jacket pocket to a simple but super steamy text.  Even the smallest gesture helps build the excitement and anticipation for an erotic encounter later on in the day.

Get Creative & Get “Some”

Get creative and you’ll be sure to keep the 30 days exciting.  Have sex at unexpected times – try a quickie just before you go out to a party together; or, in unexpected places – hop in the back of your car and get hot, even if it’s parked in your own garage.  Experiment with role-playing and new positions.  Thirty days can give a couple a lot of creative license, so take it.

Found Time Together

The pledge isn’t just about the sex.  It’s about creating the time for intimacy.  Good sex allows you to explore a bond, or re-ignite passion. But in the end, you will be creating time to spend with that one special person.

You and your partner will be amazed how you feel after 30 days of intentional, loving sex – so don’t wait – get to it!   Be open, and share how you and your partner sparked intimacy  this month.

Sex is fun.  Sex is intimate. And, it’s also a workout.  So why not intensify the workout while you intensify the pleasure?!

It’s Better on Top

Next time you’re on top – try adding some sexy squats with the reverse cowgirl position: while he is laying down, face away from him and as you lower yourself, use your arms and legs to prop yourself up and down.  It’s not only a turn-on, but tones your leg and butt.

Pump Those Arms

Have your partner sit in a chair, and when you are riding him, push yourself up with your hands, using your triceps, biceps, and forearms. Working up your core and arms is a great way to get fit and climax.

Sexy Yoga

While on your back, drape your legs over your partner’s shoulders.  Then, tighten your abs and arch your back for a sexy “power yoga” move.

Without question, hot sex is a “two-fer” – an erotic experience and exercise.  Do you sexercise with or without knowing it?  If so, share your favorite move(s)….

We all get into patterns. It’s natural.  But, sex can get “ho-hum” when routine kicks in — but here are some ways to reinvigorate your sexual repertoire.

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait – Try delaying “the main act” for a change of pace.  Explore your partner’s body to find areas that get him or her really turned on— you’ll build anticipation and ultimately intensify the end pleasure.

Shake Things Up – In a rut? Check out the We-Vibe Playbook for some inspiration.   A “Spoonful of Sugar” may not make the medicine go down, but it will give you an exciting new position versus your standard go-tos!

Plan a Sex Date – Relationship expert Trina Read often counsels patients to schedule time for sex. Text or email love notes throughout the day to build excitement. By the time you meet, you will both be that much closer to an intense climax.

Power of Touch – When your partner is focused on your pleasure, try stroking his or her hair. Touch allows you to stay connected throughout. When you’re ready to share the love, try the We-Vibe 3 — it’s designed to intensify the love-making pleasure for both of you.

Communicating what you want in bed can be daunting.  But like anything else, mastering sex with your partner takes practice.

Cindy Meston, Ph.D., University of Texas, Austin and Director for Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory, asserts that both men and women have sex for love, commitment AND PHYSICAL GRATIFICATION.

According to Meston, personal desires range and can change, depending on mood, life stress and a relationship’s status.  However, no matter where you are in a relationship, there are things you can do to make sure you are both satisfied:

• Open Up  - Talk to your partner about what turns you on and what you are looking for in a sexual relationship.   It doesn’t have to be a serious — make it steamy, or even pillow talk.
• Foreplay - Foreplay begins before the clothes come off!  Footsy under the dinner table or flirting at a bar.  The more you tease and extend the foreplay, the more likely you are to satiate in bed.

• Objects of Affection - What better way to ignite passion in your partner than by giving him or her an unexpected gift?  It can be as simple as a handwritten note or something like a We-Vibe 3, a couple’s vibrator that’s sure to ramp up the passion.

Have fun thinking of your own ways to please your partner and you may make it easier for him or her to please you in the process!